Peer pressure Tattoo, sort of.

[BanSilini]

My other half has nearly no ink. He has a crappy sun on his shoulder he got when he was 18, it's fadded and barely visible.

I've been on a tattoo binge lately. I think he is jealouse. He's been wanting to start a japenese body suit of some sort, with a dragon and some americana mixed into it. But he's slow on actually going and doing it, like lack of time or energy to go through the whole process of finding the artist, getting the art drawn up, discussing what you want. I thought if I brought him with me to one of my sessions he'd be interested, he was, but then that turned into impatience.

I'm thinking this fall of just laying down some money on a big deposit for him with one of my favorite artist, sitting him in the chair and saying "stop crying about it and do it already".

But then I feel like I'm pressuring into tattoos to become more like me. That's not what I want. I dunno I'm conflicted, he doesn't really talk to much about the subject. Opinions thoughts etc are totally welcome.

[Bones]

I don't know if I would lay down a deposit or not. That seems like a lot of pressure, and he may want an artist or style that is totally different from what you choose. What about taking him to a convention in the area, or around to several shops to check out portfolios?

If you know he wants a tattoo, what about making out a "tattoo gift certificate" from you (that he could use anywhere) as a birthday, anniversary, or other holiday present. You could find some great americana/Japanese clip art or flash online to make out a card or something ...

Just a thought.

[BanSilini]

It sort of feels like he wants to do it, but he doesn't want to do any of the work behind it. He wants me to do it for him, like I am suppose to be telepathic or something. UGH men, and their lack of communication skills. (present company excluded of course).

[reggie]

Thinking about it..... and wanting it badly enough to do the work are two different things. Maybe he's just not into the idea as much as he thought or you'd like him to be. Let it go. It'll either happen or it won't.

[JD LaRish]

what he said ^

[Chris aka Creepinbean]

Its true. If he was into it trust me he would of had one by now.

[kitten]

I think that men and women see tattoos differently. I can explain my idea for a new tattoo to my husband in every context that I think he will understand, and he still doesn't get it (he's a smart guy in every other respect). He'll usually say, "I'll know if I like it when it's done".

Could it be that your other half just can't visualize what the tattoo will look like so he's unsure of whether to get it? Also given that his current tattoos are small, it may be a big step to go from the small sun to a Japanese body suit.

[Ramon Ostolaza]

Just let him be... if you want, you may play one day to sketch the tattoo with some sharpies, this has the risk to become a more "interesting" game... but it is worth the effort ;)

And maybe, just maybe he may end up liking the idea and moving forward on the project.

[Judy]

I agree with the others, he would have had it by now if he really wanted it. When I was planning mine, every night I was drawing things up, arranging things differently, ect. Something is stopping him from doing it, (the pain associated with a huge piece, maybe his mom's reaction?), I think the best thing you can do is just let it go. When he's ready, it'll happen, or maybe it never will, it's really up to him. You just have to let him know you're okay with whatever he decides to do.